Whilst I’m falling down the rabbit hole of Youtube, I stumble on a video that describes a recent realisation I wrote about here. The video gives a much better explanation. It talks about how we can make decisions either based on growth or fear and when we choose the latter it generally comes from a need we have.
Here’s the video:
If I look at all my past decisions and pick one, let’s say: deciding to live at home during university. I spent a lot of time weighing up the pros and cons, but in the end I thought I’d save a lot of money by living at home, which I did. However, deep down I was scared. I remember thinking about the horror stories of university halls: roommates from hell, constant fire alarms and so I chose the safe option. And every year after, I had an opportunity to flee the nest but it was never the right time. I guess my fear stemmed from a need to feel secure/safe which makes sense, I find that at the root of most of my decisions is that same need to feel secure.
Let me know if you can relate to this? I sometimes wonder if I’m the only one who likes to over-analyse things…